– Following tips apply when you date anyone in general, however more so when you date a partner who comes from a different cultural upbringing
Identify your goal –
Are you looking for a serious relationship for life or just having some experience with men from a different race?
At our service we would like to deal with people who are seeking a life partner. If that is your goal, we can help you.
Join a dating agency is to increase your opportunity of meeting a right partner. A professional matchmaker is able to assist you to understand cultural differences between your culture and his culture, therefore to find out whether a man is genuinely interested in sharing life with you. You can avoid wasting time.
Some basic tips you can take home with:
Go for a coffee for the first meeting. The conversation should be friendly and light hearted. Don’t ask personal questions such as money, income, assets, properties. Some Chinese women may feel these are essential criterion to check out with a potential partner. However, while some Chinese men may accept that, most Australian educated Asian men will not. And majority western men will definitely be put off.
Never ask about their past relationships. It can be very off putting to an intelligent balanced man. His past is not your business. Talk about you and him.
Make friends with each other. A healthy and lasting relationship must be based on a good friendship. Become best friends before you become lovers. Never rush into a sexual relationship before you know each other well enough mentally, emotionally. Many dating books advise that you must wait till at the least 8 dates. This is even more important if you are very strongly attracted to him at your first meeting. Learn to say NO when you feel like that. No hasty decisions to get married, even if you are in your 30s and feel the clock is ticking. It’s better to live a happy single life than being in a miserable marriage.
Remember: Things come quickly, go quickly. Divorce is very damaging and it affects you in life. If you marry someone whom you didn’t know well, you may regret deeply in the future.
Stick to the traditional belief “ Marriage is forever ”. Getting to know him, build your relationship slowly but surely. This will enable your marriage in the future is healthy and can survive ups and downs.
Does he respect you as a person? Does he like you as a person or does he like you because you are Asian? If he likes you because you are Asian, is he interested in knowing your culture or shows respect to it?
If he doesn’t address you by your name, but simply use terms such as ” my beautiful little girl “; ” my little beauty “, especially at early stage of your dating, you need to take it slow if you want have a term relationship with him.
Does he make decisions with consideration of your opinion?
Does he introduce you to his friends circle and family? Does he show respect towards you in front of his friends and family?
We provide hands on personalized cross cultural dating consultation if you need. Come to see Rose, make a time now: 0433312514. Email: info@australianasiansingles.com.au
